Are you a Bitter person?
Going by the Urban dictionary, Bitterness is "the feeling of anger and hate, often, people who are bitter appear to the world as just going around pissed off at everyone and everything"
1. You feel like everyone is out to get you
Have you ever wondered what the people you think are out to get you will achieve by so doing? your mind is playing a fast one at you, more often, you are your own enemy, the whole drama you fear or predict is in your head. The fact that people were out to get you in the past does not mean everyone you see now is out to get you.
2. You constantly talk poorly about others:
Do you always look for reasons to talk down on someone or make others look stupid while you claim to be wise? A wise man seldomly talks, let alone always filled with negative comments about his family members, friends, neighbors and colleagues.
If by talking poorly about others you feel good and praise yourself then know that bitterness has taking a grip on you.
3. You constantly compare yourself to others and always feel you are better than them:
Some people who always make noise about not competing with anyone unknowingly feel jealous of the other person's achievement, this will make you to start digging out your past achievements just so that you prove that you are better than the person.Why always compare yourself with others?
4.You think everything and every word said is about you hence gather up innocent enemies
Anyone can have a bad day exactly the same way you can have a bad bad day, so why think you are always the reason someone is not smiling when he saw you, someone went to your neighbor's to collect something that he should have come to collect from you, someone is doing this or someone is doing that...
Hello! the world does not revolve around you, its always not about you so let's try this, when next you think someone made a comment about you try to forget it if you can't let it be for that time then ask the person about it later, sometimes, the response you will get did not even have anything to do with you or something that happened the day before
5. You are too proud to hear the opinion of others once you have done your analysis of a situation:
Why be the Defender and Prosecutor at the same time? just before you draw your conclusion from the premises, try listening to what the accused have to say about it? Just because things happened in a certain way does not in anyway make your judgement right until you hear a second opinion.
Do not forget that things are not always as they appear.
6. You feel no one is up to your standard hence avoid people:
Once you start feeling you cannot associate with people both your peers and older ones as you fault their standards or feel you are way up there and make yourself unapproachable, bitterness and hurt is playing with you.
7. Your family is happier and relaxed when you are not home:
Some people seem to make the smiles on the faces of their loved ones go away immediately they step into the house, if you have noticed by chance that your family is happier when you are not present and prefer to speak to you over the phone, watch out.
8. You can't have a simple conversation without feeling insulted:
You really don't need to feel insulted every time, lets assume everyone is out to insult you then simply disappoint them and ignore them, why always drink poison and wait for the next person to die? Do you find it hard to differentiate between a simple conversation, mistake, joke etc and all is termed insult by you.
9. You think everyone or 98% of the people you know have a problem:
Do you know that when you don't seem to agree with people often it is usually not because everyone you know is lame or stupid or has an attitude, far from it, it is because YOU have a very big problem not them.
10. Are people always sad when they leave you or grumble after talking with you?
If by the end of most of your conversations, you have noticed that the smiles on the faces of your friends,family or 3rd party vanishes when you are done talking, please check yourself.
You do not have to be a kill joy.
Bitterness takes the joy of the Present time and replaces it with fear and hurts from past experiences.
The bad thing about it is that, everyone around you starts becoming miserable and frustrated. You become too scary without knowing and even your loved ones start seeking for peace, joy and love elsewhere.
If you think you have some of this signs, time to start looking out for them or get an appointment with a therapist or better still watch out on ways to deal with bitterness here soon.
Leave the past and enjoy the future. The future is brighter whether you see it or not.
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